Bonjour ma chery!
Many of my followers and subscribers have asked me on countless occasions, “what is the best way to make a guy fall in love with you?” Initially, I just figured this to be a seemingly pointless question, but after I got another one of these emails last night, I actually started to think about it.
It turned out that there’s no BEST way to make a guy fall in love with you, but in fact there are a series of steps, which, if followed correctly, can make that guy you like fall in love with you.
Here we go…
Step 1: Attraction
This is the first, and probably most important, step. Almost 99 percent of the time, a guy’s interest can and will start with attraction. If there’s no attraction, then the chances of that guy falling for you are pretty slim.
This does not mean that you have to look like a Victoria Secret model because beauty alone does not define attraction. It all comes down to your inner confidence, being comfortable with who you are and what you look like.
Have you ever seen a handsome guy/girl with someone you considered to be in attractive! What do you think that is?...
Taking care of yourself is absolutely paramount, regardless of where you are in a relationship. Things like exercise can have a profound impact on how you look and also on how you feel about yourself. You don’t have to go through some grueling diets or insane exercise programs.
Find something that you love doing and try your best to stick to it. This can be anything from running 15 minutes a day, going to zumba classes, doing yoga, or doing some workout programs at home. The basic gist of it is that, if you love doing it, you’re going to do it more often and stick to it for a much longer period of time.
Also, keep in mind these scientifically proven beauty tips to get a guy interested:
-Red Lips – Studies have shown on countless occasions that red lips make a woman more attractive. It’s usually believed that it works because red lips represent a sign of fertility.
-Lined Lids – Another known fact is that mascara and eyeliner create a contrast that enhances feminine sensuality.
-Thick Locks – Hair is the first thing men notice about a woman, even before the breasts. The hair is also the medium in which women release the highest amount of pheromones. So, clean, thick, and shiny locks are a good indication of good health and will surely attract men all around you.
-Flushed Cheeks – This is yet another sign of fertility and youth that makes you more attractive and appealing to men. A subtle pale pink blush for a fresh natural look will go a long way.
And let’s not forget about the clothes you wear. It’s always important to dress in order to flatter and complement your personal style. Never wear something that you’re not comfortable in. Guys will be able to sense it and it’s a major turn off.
All of these tips can be implemented by ANY woman because they have nothing to do with your personal physical appearance.
Step 2: Breeze Through It
There’s some attraction building, and you start to meet up on occasion. You’ve started talking more often, texting and calling, but don’t really know where this is going. Don’t dwell on it, just breeze through it.
Don’t obsess, don’t plot and don’t stress yourself. More importantly, don’t consider yourself off the market just because there’s this guy in your life that you really, really like. It’s important to keep your options open and to give him enough space in order for him to come to you. Also, make sure you STOP checking your phone every minute; it will not make him text you more often.
Step 3: Keep Cool and Focus On Your Life
Even if things are starting to get more serious, you’re meeting each other more often, talking even more, and you feel that a deeper connection has been made, keep your cool. Continue on with your life in exactly the same way as before you started dating.
Sure, you can give him a BIT more time, but don’t drop everything and start focusing your life around him. Keep seeing your friends, going to clubs, working out, or whatever it was that you were doing before he came into your life.
It’s important to realize that part of the reason he’s into you is the fact that you had a busy life outside of the relationship. He might have been with very needy girls and you are finally different. Don’t turn into those girls just because you’ve got a guy now.
Step 4: The Time To Put A Label On Your Relationship
It’s very important to realize one thing: do you want to be with HIM? Or do you want to be with SOMEONE? You need to understand the essence of these questions in order to fully understand what you want from HIM. In my case I realized I wanted to be with someone and not with him exactly. I did however chose to end things as friends... Mainly because he was fun to be around.
Men love to be adored and appreciated. For us, it’s an amazing feeling when a man we’re into sees who we truly are and wants to be with us regardless of our flaws.
On the other hand, we see a man that just WANTS a girlfriend as a major turnoff. We know that if he’s that desperate, then it must mean there’s nothing special about us since any girl could easily fill that void in his life.
Many women get caught up in the desire to have a boyfriend that they fail to recognize and understand the person they’re dating. When a man feels that you appreciate his uniqueness, and when he sees that he’s contributing positively to your life, that man will never hesitate to make it official.
If you’re doing everything right and he still won’t put that label on your relationship, leave him! If he really cares and wants you in his life, he’ll never allow you to leave.
Step 5: Give Him What He Wants – Appreciation, Acknowledgement and Respect
I survey a few of the males around me and I learned this; From a man’s point of view, respect and appreciation are the pillars of any relationship. All a man really wants is to make the woman he loves/likes happy and to feel that she sees and appreciates him for what he does. Appreciating your man after you’ve seen all of his flaws and weaknesses will make him want you ever more.
Unfortunately, this sort of appreciation can’t be faked; it has to be genuine. When he does something for you, no matter how big or small, show him that you noticed and that you appreciate it. The more specific you are with your compliments and acknowledgments, the better.
For many men, the ideal woman is the one that is fully and unconditionally happy with him. If you are genuinely happy with him and the relationship, and you are able to see him and accept him for exactly who he is (not because of some agenda), he won’t be able to stop himself from falling in love with you.
That‘s really all it comes down to. If you keep all of these points in mind, that guy you like won’t even have a choice in the matter. In his mind, he’s just found the perfect woman.
This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out.
I hope this is helpful to atleast one person out there :)
Sincerely,
💝Essie
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